I have been asked this question way too often. Why are you single, Solo? Depending on the person inquiring I would come up with a comical but truthful response but my normal implication is that women are very delusional in society today. Most women are so tainted from previous experiences with males in general starting with the absence of their dad. Too often in my life as a single, heterosexual male I meet someone, have a few conversations over the phone, go out once and then never see that person again. Yes, I am notorious for a lot of first dates and I know I am not the only guy who wishes to find a companion/partner in life void of the unnecessary stress.
Now I know this Sounds familiar, right? Chances are while you were on your date you discovered a personality that you know you just can’t deal with. It’s not that your date was creepy or malicious; you just know that a long-term relationship with that person won’t work out. I know it can’t be just me.
As I was thinking about my dating life and the search for that perfect companion for me I realized there are some personalities that I have stumbled across that should be avoided at least in my humble opinion especially for an intimate relationship. Here are my five top 5 personalities that men should avoid when dating for a potential long-term companion.

1. The Social Butterfly
Every man loves a woman who knows how to effectively flirt with him. I know I do because its like putting lighter fluid on a fire it either starts the fire or keeps the fire going. A flirtatious woman showcases her lack of shyness; which makes the getting to know her a lot more easier. For me and other guys, not having to do all the work is a blessing makes us stay engaged.
Now the problems is when you meet the woman that is an occasional flirt and the all the time flirt and trust the all the time flirt is something most men can’t deal with because it keeps lines blurry. For example: an all the time flirts, giggles, touches, and tosses her hair at everyone: the best friend, the boss, the father and the help. She craves attention and therefore gets it from desired and undesirable men. Most of the time, you realize that she craves attention because of self-esteem issues. Being a patient and confident man like myself this may not be an issue but as time goes on it will drain me and after some time I normally realize that she wasn’t or isn’t worth the time or effort.

2) The “I wanna be Married” Chick

Have you ever been on a date with a chick and everything is going perfect. I mean real perfect, the date is great, conversation, lighting, the service at the restaurant and she is looking freaking amazing but then she starts talking about your wedding location, religious views, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog. In the words of hip hop artist, Cashout, “Wait, Hold up, let me roll up.” All of sudden it gets stuffy and the mood changes drastically because of the weight that just was dropped in the conversation. I believe that during the first couple months or so that conversation should be light not all heavy and discussing permanent future plans. That is way too much pressure on the first date. I personally, get deterred when a woman brings up GOD too much because its ok to be devoted church going person but when it becomes over-saturated in everything, total turn-off. A lot of women especially Black women over promote their view to the point that its discreetly antagonistic. Just because we don’t share the same views on religion doesn’t mean we cannot work. There are many great relationships that are very wonderful and the partners see things differently but communication and respect for others choices gets most people through anything. Any woman that moves that fast isn’t really for me and might not be for you either. Women have a list of things that they want to accomplish and maybe that is on her list regardless of who it is with and to me that is not proper. I implore women to learn how to be happy with someone instead of happy with what you have accomplished by getting married, having kids and getting a dog. Normally over 50% of those dreams end up like a nightmare with divorce. Just some food for thought in today’s society amongst friends.
3) The Needy Chick

Everybody has dealt with “the needy chic.” She is almost a nuisance because she cannot do anything without her man. She can’t go nowhere or do anything without him. The needy chic will always like what he likes just so she can be around him and will call or text or poke him 30 times a day and at any time will lose her composure if she is not in his presence. This female is way more work than any person deserves in relationship. Her life is void without you and if you don’t fill that void she is miserable therefore making you miserable. The Needy Chick is not what you want in a relationship. You would be a glorified babysitter catering to her beckon call so she doesn’t cry or have a tantrum and now who wants to go through that with a companion?

4) The Party Girl

I have met a lot of these women throughout life and this ball of fun is, well, she is the life of the party. She’s carefree, maybe a little wild, and from the outside looks like a person they may be interested in. Once they get a closer look, however, they realize that her entire life is a party. While a guaranteed good time may seem like a good idea, what will she be like in the sobering light of day? “In words of Shawn Carter, “ good Lord she fine but she party all the time.”
Her hilarious antics, outgoing personality and righteous dance moves are good in small doses, but the Party Girl doesn’t know the meaning of “closing time.” It’s hard to have a healthy relationship with a person who is masking major problems underneath his or her party hat. Plus, we all know that people who can’t amuse themselves without mind-altering substances just aren’t any fun when the party is over.

5) Ms. Talk TOO Much

Ms. Talk Too Much is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seeming only concerned about what is going on in her life and sharing her prattling insights, this babbling bimbo also has Drama-Queen tendencies that are not prescribed in any healthy relationship. Ms Talk Too Much’s rambling renditions drive me crazy for obvious reasons. Most people think it takes two to have a conversation, but not Ms. Talk Too Much.
It is a known fact that most women are more verbal than men and get a bad rep for being over talkers. Ms. Talk Too MUCH, however, doesn’t know that the sound of silence is golden. She needs to learn that the more you talk, the less you learn.

As a man I feel an emotional attraction for a woman when I see something special about a woman’s PERSONALITY, and suddenly recognizes her as unique. The kind of woman I would want to be with in a serious relationship. Are you letting your best self shine through? Do I recognize you as the woman I wants to be with from the start?
Now you’re starting to understand that us men don’t choose to be with you because of your resume. We choose to be with you because of your personality, and how you make us FEEL. That is just a little thought to get you motivated to be better because what you are currently doing probably isn’t working or you wouldn’t be reading this blog. Oh, yea, stop chasing a wallet or a lifestyle because the odds are against you in finding a potential match with the 10% of the world that is actually able to afford your ridiculous aspirations and the crazy thing is just because a guy doesn’t have it now doesn’t mean he cannot get it. Most guys such as myself might need you to be motivated to want to go on luxurious trips and buy expensive things. Here is my two cents for your reading pleasure.